Ramblings of a homebody

I am not the most social of people, thus it’s hard to make / meet new friends. I would really like to expand our / my circle. Ron has a lot of straight girlfriends. I have friends of my own too, just not as many as I used to. We don’t have many couple friends as I would like. I’d really like to change that but (speaking for myself) how does someone who is predominantly a homebody meet new people?

I am not a hermit mind you. I like dining out, going to the movies, museums, mini-golf, game nights; most things that I am supposed to be too young to enjoy. I am 31.. Ron is 30. Everyone out age either has young children and spends their time with their families (understandably), or wants to bar / club hop their weekends away. I hate bars, and don’t really drink. I hate the whole bar scene. It’s so not me.

I have always had a hard time making new friends because it feels like I’m never what I am ‘supposed’ to be. I’ve felt that way most of my life. As a child I had school friends and home friends because I went to school in a different area of the city from where I lived. The kids at home also went to school together, and the kids at school also lived around eachother. I think it was harder to form bonds with people because I was back and forth between (what seemed like) 2 different worlds. I felt like an outsider no matter where I was.

In highschool, my family moved to NJ.. I went from being a city kid surrounded by other working class families to a suburban NJ area with a lot of kids who grew up with silver spoons in their mouths. I made friends, some that I still have but I always felt an armslength away because I didn’t grow up with these kids, like they all did with eachother. I was still an outsider.

Even now.. in work for example.. I do a different job than all of the other Collectors. I am not one of the mainstream collectors. I also haven’t been doing this for 20 years and haven’t worked at other companies with my coworkers like many of them have with eachother. I have friends here, but more acquaintances. I don’t go to the beef and beers that someone here always seems to be hosting (not putting them down, just not my thing).

I don’t mean to sound ungrateful for my life or for those that I am lucky enough to have in it. I have and have had some grade A, quality peeps in my life. As I delve further into my 30’s though I feel like it’s time to branch out a bit. Someone needs to invent a personal ad site for individuals or couples who are just looking to make new friends.