I belong to a lot of adoption groups on facebook. The moderators of the groups often pose different questions about birthmothers who choose to place their children for adoption as well as women who choose abortion. There are always a slew of nasty, sexist comments from a lot of adoptive parents.
I have seen people refer to birth moms as sluts, whores, dirtballs, etc. all because these women were faced with an unplanned pregnancy. Then the women who choose to abort are labeled as murderers. I just don’t get it. These are people who wouldn’t be able to be parents if not for the miracle of adoption yet they choose to vilify the very women who have given them the most precious gift in the world.
Maybe they are threatened because these women could make life and they couldn’t. I don’t know. I only know that when the day comes and we are parents, that our birth mom will be an angel to us.
It’s funny to be both pro-choice and also waiting to adopt. I might be a man, but I still consider myself a feminist. I fully believe in a woman’s right to choose. It is funny though because obviously with Adoption being pretty much a numbers game, that if there were less abortions performed, there would be more children placed for adoption, thus our journey to adoption would likely be much shorter.
I still recognize the importance of choice, but I nonetheless see the irony in the situation as well.
I think it is cool for a man to say he is a feminist and you are totally right, it is a a woman's right to choose.
ReplyDeleteI hope you and Ron get the chance to enjoy the awesomeness of having children. It wasn't until I was a bit older that I understood how fortunate I am to have my 3 kids.
They are a true blessing in my life.
Good luck with all the wedding plans, the wedding itself and the adoption. :-)
I love the shirt in this picture...yay adoption!! :) I have never thought of the ironic dichotomy between being for adoption and also pro-choice, very interesting!
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