Accentuate the Positive...

I haven't blogged in about 400 years. Mostly because I was feeling a little overexposed for a minute and needed to pull back a bit. I get that in putting my thoughts / business out into the world like this, I can't be surprised when people read it, but when people like to judge and talk shit for the very fact that I take the time to blog and express myself, my defenses go up. Ofcourse the same people that bust my balls behind my back for blogging are the same people that have nothing better to do than read my blog over and over and disect it. Bit I digress....

This boys and girls bring me to my topic for the evening.. Drumroll please... Negativity!

I hate negativity. Now let's be clear. We are all human. we all have good days and bad days. Lord know I have my share. But there are people in this world (you know who they are) who don't have a kind word to say about anyone. People that live for drama or to see you fail. These are the people that i would like to ship off to another planet.

It's funny because I am a fairly quiet person. I think a lot. I observe and listen a lot. I know that there are times when I should be more vocal and more communicative but I think there are a lot of people that could stand to be a little more silent and just watch and listen a bit more

On the negativity tip, we seem to be on the @sshole radar map for homophobes. If you've known me longer than 5 minutes you know that Ron and I are trying to adopt. Since the agency (in our opinion) doesn;t do nearly enough advertising, we do a lot on our own. We have profile on pretty much every social networking site, every pregnancy app & site, ads on craigslist, and even a chatroom that I maintain on AOL. In the last few weeks we've gotten an insurgance if hateful e mails and IM's. I have a little log of all of them just incase anything goes from online to real life. One of the messages even included a death threat. (and fyi the threat came from someone in the UK, so I am not overly concerned). But my point is... these people don't know me/ us from Adam. They live in different states and in some cases different countries but take time out of their day to communicate their disgust at us trying to have a family. (and btw half of these people spewing hate and threats at us do so in the name of their "Christianity").

Tonight on TV I was watching MTV's True Life: I want to be straight. these were gay youths (early 20s) who were tyring to live straight lives. Now most people with a minimum amount of common sense know that if you're gay... you're gay. This one girl who was caught "in the act" by her mom, was stabbed.. yes.. STABBED by her mom because due to her Christianity, she couldn't handle her daughter being with a woman. The young masn featured didn;t have quite as dramatic of a story but his family made it very clear that they didn't approve of him being gay and he was made to feel like an outcast. These 2 kids were trying to change who they were at their very core to make their families love and accept them. They call that love?

There is so much hostility and so much negativity. We all get sucked into it, myself included from time to time. Maybe if we all take a moment. Stop.. observe and listen to what's going on in the world around us. Maybe if we take a moment each day to bite our tongues before we say something bitchy or catty. maybe if we each say one nice thing about someone that me might ordinarily keep to ourselves. Maybe we could change the world?