We have been having the hardest time finding a cake topper. We'd love to find something sweet and romantic, but we'd settle for something vintage and fun.. or heck even something funny.. as long as it fit our personalities. There are no nice gay male wedding cake toppers. There is not a lot of selection of lesbian toppers (hiyo) but there are more for women than men. It's frustrating that in this day and age that this market is pretty much ignored. We don't want to use generic male figures that look like they were each ripped off of a hetero topper. It's funny that the big things for the wedding, we've breezed through but something this small is proving difficult.. Maybe we're being silly but it's still frustrating. We talked about making something bc we can both get out 'craft on'.. when we're in the mood.. We'll see.
I read an article recently that posed the question.. Do pride festivals hurt the gay rights cause? This was specifically talking about the people (mostly men) who show up in their leather.. or maybe not even that.. I hate to say it but I think those people do hurt the cause... I haven't been to a pride parade or festival in years. I am told that there is a "family pride" in NJ but I have yet to check it out. I have gone to prides and seen topless women on their motorcycles, nearly naked men in speedos (pr less). I respect those peoples right to express their individuality however those are not the kind of people I associate myself with.
How will our struggle for equal rights ever be taken seriously when everytime the news covers a pride event and they pan to a crowd of parade revelers and it's a scene of debauchery.
The older I get, the more conservative I seem to be getting... I admit that. But even to the most liberal of people, I think sometimes enough is enough... To each their own I suppose..
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I agree with you on this one...about pride. It frustrates me that as a gay person I have struggled with coming out and having a family and not being taken seriously.
ReplyDeleteI have either been thought to be primiscous or straight...because I have kids.
I went to Asbury Park, NJ pride a few years ago that was 'safe' only a few people in assless chaps...I want a pride I can feel proud about, take the kids...Outfest in October is a good family event, but that's the only one.
You are not alone, the older I get the more fussy I get about things, that is why "the real L word" bothers me, is that really how lesbians are?? Cause I've never met any like that.
Oh have you looked on the internet for your cake toppers. If you are interested I know several artists/crafters who would probably love to help you both. let me know.
I really like the ones that you sent.. I am going to check them out with Ron hopefully tonight. There were a couple I *really* liked. We'll happily look at anything you come acrossed that's quirky or different.
ReplyDeleteThere used to be a show called Under the Pink Carpet. One time I watched a show on prides and the point they made was 'If you don;t like what pride events look like, then go to them and change the way they look'.. I like the idea of that, but it's so much more complicated than that.
I agree that I want an event I could take the whole family to. I understand the history of the gay rights movement and what our history looks like.. but like gay people.. gay familes.. etc have blossomed and transformed, I don't understand why the 'pride events' haven't.
I support handmade art/crafters...so I have information I can send you on quirky or different handmade items.
ReplyDeleteI guess Pride events are about well, Pride...being surpressed for so long and at that one event, some people literally want to let it all 'hang out'?
I think I will stay home from here on out.